" Hi, Bette. Could we have coffee sometime?"

As an adult, I met Bette after her Vegas show and had an overwhelming feeling of wanting to sit and talk to her over coffee about life, love, and traversing this world, about this adventure called adulthood. Bette has done it, triumphed over this life; she has made it through the ups and downs, the self-questioning of both her gregarious self and the quiet one, and now seems to be in a place where she gets to be accepted as herself, all of her possible selves. I need to talk to her about that journey. This blog is the beginning of my coffee chat, a space for me to talk to Bette and to possibly gain some insight. So, "Hi, Bette. These are my questions and ideas, things I'd like to discuss with you someday."

Sunday, February 28, 2010

Dearest Bette,


While in the window of fame, the amount of negative press and hurtful sentiment must be exorbitant. You have spoken about your angst-filled time during Jinxed and the director who bad-mouthed you to the press. Still I have heard interviews explaining the experience and feel the underlying reluctance to ever utter a negative word again.

While I too try not to gossip or become negative in my sentiments about others, I am involved in an experience right now that is the exact experience you had, someone said I said/did and has sent out powerful press about myself as "difficult to work with." And now, it is complicated and hurtful to be in my current work space. No matter what I do, there seems to be some sort of "pay back." So, how do I continue to forge ahead despite all the negative press, the hurtful statements and the horrible feelings bubbling up inside? How does one not act out, speak out in resistance to negative comments but instead prove they are likable, smart, and fun through their actions? How do I shut my mouth?

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